They had drifted apart, as people do when they promise to stay in touch; the ones who are going to stay in touch don’t need to promise. — Edward St. Aubyn, Lost for Words

Hi Missy? What’s up fools?!


No one specific thing happens; everything is just kind of in a state of constant happening. Sure, there’s the Day you come out to your family, or leave your partner, or confront an abuser, and those are big days. But so are the days where you decide that you need to do those things. And so are the days when you acknowledge the truths of these ideas for the first time. And the days when you hear someone say for the first time, you know, I’ve done that that thing you’re afraid to do, and I’m fine. Life never really feels like discrete moments, it just becomes those when we tell our stories and want to leave out the parts where we stalled or failed or chickened out. Part of why Transparent feels so fully inhabited is that it leaves those moments, those days, that fallow period in.

Margaret Lyons continues to impress with her work at New York Magazine.

No one specific thing happens; everything is just kind of in a state of constant happening. Sure, there’s the Day you come out to your family, or leave your partner, or confront an abuser, and those are big days. But so are the days where you decide that you need to do those things. And so are the days when you acknowledge the truths of these ideas for the first time. And the days when you hear someone say for the first time, you know, I’ve done that that thing you’re afraid to do, and I’m fine. Life never really feels like discrete moments, it just becomes those when we tell our stories and want to leave out the parts where we stalled or failed or chickened out. Part of why Transparent feels so fully inhabited is that it leaves those moments, those days, that fallow period in.

Margaret Lyons continues to impress with her work at New York Magazine.

A lovely thought for Friday night drinks.

A lovely thought for Friday night drinks.


Moats and boats and waterfallsAlley-ways and pay phone callsI’ve been everywhere with you

Moats and boats and waterfalls
Alley-ways and pay phone calls
I’ve been everywhere with you

The fact that the powerful often win does not mean that a war isn’t going on. — Tricia Rose, Black Noise: Rap Music and Black Culture in Contemporary America (via geneticandunattainable)

Always relevant.

After a year in Houston, I’m starting to get the feeling I was meant to live in New England.

After a year in Houston, I’m starting to get the feeling I was meant to live in New England.

I paid for one Dr. Pepper but the vending machine gave me two. Because sometimes good things happen to bad people.

I paid for one Dr. Pepper but the vending machine gave me two. Because sometimes good things happen to bad people.

I’m feeling an overwhelming urge lately to take a week or two off work to rewatch The Wire in its entirety.

I’m feeling an overwhelming urge lately to take a week or two off work to rewatch The Wire in its entirety.

So our campus had a town hall tonight that was meant to ask the question “Can Ferguson happen here?”  We had some incredible panelists share context on the case of Michael Brown and the history of violence against African-Americans, police brutality, and the mass incarceration of people of color, among many other things.  As we progressed, I couldn’t help but think of our country’s history of violence, and how we continue to discuss these cases from year to year.  I ended up asking something along the lines of this:

I hate to fit that “white bro” stereotype and say “One of my best friends is black,” because I realize how offensive and insidious that statement can be.  But she is, and her parents are Nigerian, and she grew up in Minnesota, and she and I continue to turn to each other after cases like Oscar Grant and Trayvon Martin and Michael Brown.  We saw Fruitvale Station together back in Boston, and after we passed through the shock we felt from experiencing the film, we talked about the movie and the case.  She shared, and I paraphrase here, “I always thought growing up that my parents were strict.  I realize now that they were just scared.”

And that stuck with me. I wonder now about the heartbreak of all of this; how these cases become normalized to us.  After the murderers of Oscar Grant went free, and George Zimmerman was found not guilty, and even today, as we wait to hear about what will face Darren Wilson, the media report that someone set fire to the memorial for Michael Brown in Ferguson.  So I ask the panelists - how do we turn this into action?  How do we take the frustration and the grief and the rage, and enact something positive from this anguish?

We talked a bit about how to make this into legal action, how to follow in the footsteps of people like Ida B. Wells and her anti-lynching campaign.  And as a result, I am hopeful, but it’s a cautious optimism.  Too many times we have expressed our outrage at another useless death, another tragic killing, and nothing comes of it.

Will this be different?  Will Michael Brown’s death make a change?  I guess only time will tell.

I cannot express how excited I was to see this on YouTube earlier this week.


Everything that I said I’d do Like make the world brand new And take the time for you I just got lost and slept right through the dawn And the world spins madly on

Everything that I said I’d do
Like make the world brand new
And take the time for you
I just got lost and slept right through the dawn
And the world spins madly on

Ten years ago today, pop culture was changed forever with the premiere of LOST.  

We have to go back.

Ten years ago today, pop culture was changed forever with the premiere of LOST.  

We have to go back.

Paul Fitzgerald is the guy who played Owen Pierce on Veep, Richard Henry Lee in John Adams, and a multitude of other great parts on shows like Treme and The Good Wife.
He’s also a stone cold fox.

Paul Fitzgerald is the guy who played Owen Pierce on Veep, Richard Henry Lee in John Adams, and a multitude of other great parts on shows like Treme and The Good Wife.

He’s also a stone cold fox.

I want you…I can’t get you out of my head